I was in the
front of the line during assembly talking to my friends waiting for assembly to
officially start. Mind you my friends were short and I was tall hence I was definitely not where I was supposed to be. I was ‘gisting’ with my
friends about the weekend and reminiscing over the fun day we had in Silverbird
Galleria, Victoria Island. Yeah that was once a hot spot for teenagers. Suddenly
some girl taps my shoulder and shouts “MOVE! MOVE!”. I turned around to see who
was shouting that early Monday morning.
*It’s not
every day shout and show yourself. Sometimes act civilised* (How I wish I knew
this phrase before now) lol
Yeah where
was I? I was still turning my long neck to find out whom the mammal shouting
was. I completely turn around and realise it’s my set mate (She wasn’t in my
class but we were in the same year). You could see steam coming out of her face
just because of I was occupying her space in the line. (But but it’s never that
deep. *sigh*)
Anyway, as irritated
as I was, I replied, “you don’t speak to people like that”. (Why did she have
to shout at me like that though?) I turned back to my friends and continued
talking. This babe continued shouting o! She was like “Would you move this Black
girl” (lol we are getting somewhere). Feeling myself I replied back, “it’s
black beauty” *Flips the front of my all back and base*. She now said the
worst, “Yeah sure BLACK BEAUTY THE HORSE”
Dead
Dead
DEAD!!!!
Brief: I
just entered secondary school. This was in year 7 or JS1. This famous secondary
school was an all-girls secondary school in Nigeria. Coming into secondary
school, I was skinny, tall, Black with thick long black natural hair. I was
really dark. I am still dark but my colour then was like darkness chai. I was
so quiet because I was avoiding intense arguments with some girls before they will
start referring to my flaws. I was so self-cautious. That’s what girls do to other
girls to be honest. This girl in question was light skinned; not the prettiest but
you could see her in the dark, at least. She was tall, skinny with short hair. I
can remember this day so vividly as if it was yesterday. I even think our school
uniform made it clear whether you are skinny or on the plus side. Nothing could
hide under that uniform. Lol.
Okay back to my story. She called
me “Black beauty the horse”. Now I don’t know if you know the story book called
black beauty the horse. If you haven’t heard about it. Here’s a picture
It was about
a black horse that lived… bla bla bla.(read the book) I just turned around,
went to the front and started crying. I did not stay at the back that day. If not
everyone will know I was crying. The back was where gist used to fly. The front
had ‘some’ quite girls. I tried to reduce my height. I don’t know how I did it
but I was there throughout the assembly. Now, the main issue was that she called me A
HORSE. OMG! I hated myself for being black because it made me a target for such
insults and the girl? I hated her more for just being her. Lol. I did not tell
anyone about this until 7 years ago Lol (yes 6-7 years and I still remembered) I saw her on social media making videos to empower the youth of this
generation. I was like “so she is still alive and healthy and she is doing good
*shocked face*”. I was so upset at her because she made me feel like dirt for
so many years but as I was vexing in my little bubble. My brother pointed out
something to me. “UGO it has been 7 years o, what happens to forgiveness? All you
need to remember is what you learnt from that encounter with her not the pain
she caused you”. He said something that made me feel stupid “Are you ugly?” I
said, “NO” without thinking twice about it. Like I knew myself. I knew I was spice. Lol.
Now lessons
learnt
1. How dare you let someone dictate how
you feel about yourself? Remember
2. Do not listen to anything they say. Turn
deaf ears because if you hear just a tiny bit, of what they have to say, you
will begin to reassess yourself in a way you should not. In reference to my
story, at a point I was classifying people my skin colour, Ugly.
3. Walk away or if you want to make the person
feel stupid, start laughing. It gets to them.
4. Say a quick prayer for them. Why? Because
their hearts are so hard, mallet can’t break it. So God needs to soften their
hearts.
5. Lastly, forgive!!! Don’t fall into
the trap of being rude to other people. I think I fell into that trap because
when i was in senior secondary school, I became very insulting but in a joking
manner. Still not an excuse but don’t be like them. That is the worst thing you
can do to yourself, making another person feel the way you did. It’s never that
deep.
I am glad to
say I forgave the girl. I supported her youth development movement. I remember I
told my brother not to like her page but after a while, I realised it wasn’t worth
my stress. She is doing so well now and in my eyes she’s become so beautiful. It’s
so nice when you see everything like roses, butterflies, basically the things
you like. Maybe it’s because I forgot about what she did to me and picked the
lesson Everyone is beautiful. That is
the most important lesson today guys.
Bless
xx
-UgoTheGogo
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